If Norah's parents were hoping for a pom- pom
queen for a daughter, they would be sorely disappointed. She was
a 'hard-core tomboy' if there ever was such a thing. She loved
dressing up in her father's clothes, slathering a bit of his VO5 in
her hair for good measure, loved swinging through the trees like
Tarzan, had an affinity for hiking boots, played the saxophone and
enjoyed shaving her brother's GI Joes with her dad's razor. At the
tender age of seven, she was given the nickname, Ned, because it
seemed to suit her much better. Becoming a pom-pom gal was simply
not in the stars for Norah Vincent. Not ever.
As a young lesbian, perhaps one experience stood out and gave her
the inkling that the life experiences of men were radically
different from those of women. One evening, while hanging out with
a drag king, Norah, also in drag, found further proof her theory
was indeed truth. Many years later, while watching a reality show,
an idea that would germinate into her totally immersing and morphing
herself into the body and life of a man was sown. Norah Vincent,
a.k.a., Ned, relates her phenomenal journey in her bestselling
book, SELF-MADE MAN: One Woman's
Year Disguised As a Man.
After bulking up and utilizing an amazing theatrical make over she
was ready to begin her new life as a man. Norah's new persona as
Ned wasn't wholly carefree or easy as she was soon to find out. She
tentatively joins a bowling league where she is eventually accepted
as one of the guys, despite a lousy average. Later she accepts a
fast paced sales job and travels to the strip joints with her newly
found friends. Even incorporating herself into a stint of monastic
life is in the cards for her when she gains more confidence in her
role as a man. As a purported metrosexual 'man' she dates and
quickly discovers that "rejection is a staple for guys." She found
that a year and a half as someone/something she is not began to take
its toll in several unexpected ways.
This book was very engaging and a sure fire page turner. One thing
that kept creeping into my consciousness was that the duplicity was
obviously hurtful to the many participants she unwittingly drew into
her web for journalistic purposes. As Vincent later claimed, "I
paid a higher emotional price for my circumstantial deceptions than
any of my subjects did." I would say that assumption was debatable
as her journey was an experience, not a lifestyle and she could walk
away at liberty. I did feel the book was a bit gimmicky, but I tell
you what, it was still a great read in spite of my occasional
reservations.